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December 24, 2014

Abused women often dread the holidays, because abusive men need to exercise to exercise control especially in unusual situations, including holidays. These women find little joy in the winter holidays. Not only are they expected to entertain his family while ignoring their own, they must continue to keep the house presentable while entertaining the children who are out of school. Adding to the turmoil, their spouses are often on holiday from work and quite willing to criticize everything they do.

Here’s how an abused woman should prepare for any holiday:

First find the phone numbers for the abuse hotlines that serve your area. It’ll list a few national (USA)  that will help you get started. If you have secure access to a computer, perhaps one at work, you can Google “abuse hotlines” or “domestic violence hotlines” and many sights will pop up. Remember, if your abusing spouse is familiar with computers, he can follow your activity even if you delete all you have found.

  • The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233. Their web site has many excellent suggestions for maintaining your safety while he’s still in the home as well suggestions on what to take with you when you leave.
  • Crisis Hotline 1-877-541-2525. Personnel at this site will discuss your options with you and plans for your break. They do not refer you to specific shelters.
  • Feminist Majority Foundation 1-800-656-4673 can give you hotline phone numbers for your state.
  • Abuse hotlines by state may also be obtained at 1-800-650-6522’

Second be sure your hidden escape bundle contains money, clothes, toys, financial and family history papers and photos, cell phones, phone numbers, and medicines.

Third, if your life is in danger and you can’t do the above, just grab the children and run.

If you are or were in an abusive relationship, how do or did you handle holidays? My readers and I would like to hear about your experience. Please email me at or reply to his post.


C.L. Woodhams, author

The Outreach Committee and Sweet Justice

From → abuse, escape, holiday

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